Donnerstag, August 11, 2005
Love and LiesA friend of mine, G, just had a really bad breakup with her long-time boyfriend and i spent the last 2 and a half hours on the phone with her. I'm truly happy for her. It's a long story, something about that guy putting his hand on my butt and giving it a tight squeeze when G wasn't looking. More on that some other time.
Anyways, at that time i was in a dilemma on whether or not to tell her. There was an extremely high chance that she wouldn't believe me, but yet i couldn't live with knowing that the guy might be doing this to a dozen other girls out there, keeping G in the dark.
You might think that i could have at least tried to be subtle, but it seemed like there wasn't any nice way to say it. "Eh your boyfriend touched my
" were my exact words. She was silent for a few minutes, speechless with disbelief while i looked on apprehensively. Then she calmly flipped her hair and said "I think you're lying."
I was hurt, and didn't bring the matter up again. Shortly after, she stopped replying to my messages and our friendship came to a halt.
Five months later, i'm on the phone with her and it took every ounce of strength in me not to tell her "i told you so". "I always knew i wouldn't be the only one, i always knew he was cheating." she sobbed. This is self denial at its peak. If i didn't feel so much for her i would have clubbed her on the head with a huge stick.
"You mean... you knew he was cheating??!! And you knew i was telling the truth..... but still, you didn't leave him??" ( instead you chose to forgo our friendship.) She had no answers for me.
There is no point in this post, I don't even know why i'm blogging this. I've never really been hurt in a relationship - most of the time it seemed like i was the one doing the hurting; but i do think that sometimes heartache is neccessary. Love can be wonderful, yes , but i do believe that one should never have too much of a good thing. Often people just get so obsessed that they're blind to everything, even if its right there staring them in the face. Pain unveils the truth, and if dealt with correctly, leads to enlightenment. But then cycle repeats. And as i have nothing more to say, i hereby conclude that humans are jian gu tou. I would like to fall in love, but i still want my common sense, thank you very much.
Bleah. Relationships are overrated. Singlehood rules.
P.S: This is not me, some cynical monster has taken over.
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